Think it's unfair to say he would've ruined him.

Wasn't Szdndanay making it clear he wasn't happy when he wasn't getting games two seasons ago? Wenger does the right thing in dropping him when his form goes, even if it risks re-upsetting the player (probably had to wait until Fabianski wasn't injured) though and apparently he's the big bad man out to destroy careers. And this can't be about scapegoats or just targeting one player for our failings because Vermaelen has been dropped at the same time.

You do allude to it however, this is going to be just like Bendtner, with a family member sounding off at Wenger.