Quote Originally Posted by HCZ_Reborn View Post
No they are mutually exclusive, if the reason for his lack of diplomacy was lack of self esteem he would not have the self esteem to make the decisions he has, and certainly wouldn’t be so bullish about it either. You’d be too worried about being mocked and ridiculed, that’s how self esteem works…you’re constantly worried about what people think about you. Arteta does not care what people think about him.
People who lack self esteem often look for constant reassurance and validation from others and apart from your let’s be fair nothing burger that Xhaka existed to boost his ego there’s just nothing that suggests he seeks validation/reassurance. I’ve previously suggested he could be narcissistic but I think that was wide of the mark, because for instance I think he would have become defensive over comments around his touchline antics and he’s largely indifferent.
I wouldn’t go as far as to call him Schizoid, but there is a definite lack of interest in forming relationships with people.
wrong again, people who are genuinely confident have no need to bluster and throw their weight about

as Abraham Lincoln said "speak softly and carry a big stick"

Arteta has plenty of power, i.e. the big stick, so he shouldn't need to overreact and make it so public when he disapproves of a player showing any individualism or questionning anything he says