Nobody on this forum engages in or condones any form of aggressive personal abuse and most have said as much on several occasions. Justified criticism and a response in kind to the abuse Wenger is certainly not above dishing out in the direction of the fans is entirely justifiable. And it's an ever growing matter of dispute as to whether he's a decent man, by the way. I'm starting to thing devious would be a far better description. But each will have their own opinion on that.
As for the hat, Graham's, Wenger's and Bergkamp's.
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You wouldn't be wealthy, that's for sure. And I have a feeling you might be inadvertently referring to two posters who call him that as an extreme form of parodying fans who... call him a cunt. I can't imagine there's a single regular here who would scream abuse into Wenger's face. At least nobody has given the slightest indication they'd do that.
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You're not listening, are you? Apart from a tiny number of examples that I have seen, people on this forum are not dishing out the type of abuse you refer to. Don't know why you have such a bee about this and why you want to push it. Go to Twitter if you want to see abuse, have a word with them.
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